Atlanta Healing for Chronic Infidelity and Addiction to Sex or Porn

I specialize in helping individuals and couples heal from the harmful effects of  repeated sexual betrayal.  I'm also a certified sex addiction therapist (CSAT) and a national expert on poorly managed sexual behavior.  This page gives you some idea of my opinions and perspective on these issues.  Of course nothing I can write will be as helpful as a personal consultation tailored to your exact needs, so please contact me now if I can help you or someone you care about. 

Sexual Desire Is Wonderful, But Sexual Deception Isn't

Sex is a wonderful part of a satisfying and fulfilling life. However, some people engage in secret or risky sexual behavior that can harm their relationships, reputations, principles and self-worth. These kinds of sexual problems take many forms.  Some people use pornography excessively. For others the problem involves secret involvement with prostitutes, "escorts" or erotic massages.  And many people seek out secret sexual encounters or get involved in long-term affairs. The list goes on and on.  Some people recognize they have a problem and sincerely promise to change their ways, only to fall back into these unhealthy sexual behaviors.  It's like two parts of the same person, one standing in the light and the other hidden in shadow. 

When Sexual Secrets Come Crashing Down: Despair Marks the Beginning of Healing

Why do good people repeatedly do such things that can harm them and others they care about?  Nobody sets out to hurt their loved ones or damage their reputation.  The kind of distorted thinking that allows a person to minimize great risks, justify bad behavior and lie so convincingly may have taken years or decades to develop.  Often this continues until some discovery brings the world crashing down.  This is the painful beginning of the possibility that life can start to change for the better.  But only for those who admit the need to take action and seek help.

Healing From a History of Infidelity: Promises and Apologies Aren't Enough

Full healing from this kind of situation usually doesn't happen quickly or easily, even with genuine remorse and sincere promises to change.  It can take a lot of hard work to regain trust, rebuild integrity, grieve the losses, develop new skills, and face the issues that caused the problem in the first place. Real and lasting change requires a person to be rigorously honest, to fully accept the problem, to be wholly accountable and to remain dedicated to the task of true healing regardless of how long it takes.  This is difficult work, but the many rewards of such commitment are well worth every ounce of effort. 

Repeated Sexual Betrayal and Difficulty Stopping Undesired Sexual Behavior Sometimes Point to Sex Addiction

There are many reasons why people repeatedly engage in sexual behavior that goes against their deeply held values and commitments.  Sometimes they are struggling with some kind of sexual addiction or compulsion.  It can be hard to admit that you are not in full control of your sexual actions, but it explains a lot of behavor that otherwise makes no sense.  I help people figure out whether this is what's going on and then coming up with a plan for what to do about it. 

A Brief Explanation of Sex Addiction From a Nationally Recognized Expert

I define sex addiction as a loss of control of the ability to make consistently healthy sexual choices.  Like any other addiction it gradually consumes more time and energy away from other pleasures, responsibilities and commitments.

Sex addiction has less to do with the type, amount or frequency of a person’s sexual behavior and more to do with the inability to be in control of those choices.  Its outcome is measured in losses: loss of connection, self-esteem, trust, relationships, time, income, integrity, freedom, health and hope.  When behavior continues despite all of this risk, and no matter what a person promises or tries to stop or control it, THAT is the hallmark of an addiction.

Like termites silently eating away at the foundation of a home, sex addiction creates secret tunnels and caverns in a person’s life.  This is how a loving, ethical person can have compartments that are secretive and selfish.  This slow erosion continues until the foundation finally collapses, generally through some sort of discovery.  When this happens the pain is almost beyond measure.

Hope and Help Is Available From an Atlanta Counselor Specializing in Chronic Infidelity and Addiction to Sex or Porn

The good news is that healing and recovery from this nightmare is absolutely possible.  As an experienced Atlanta certified sex addiction therapist (CSAT) and a specialist in repeated sexual infidelity I've seen many lives turn around toward health, happiness, healing and wholeness. But it doesn't "just happen".  Breaking this cycle of pain and despair takes insight and understanding, new skills and abilities, honesty and accountability, empathy and true intimacy, the healing of past and present wounds, overall emotional growth, and much more.  It's not possible to do this alone, nor is it necessary.  The guidance and support of an experienced professional who specialiizes in helping people overcome these kinds of problems can make a world of difference.  

If you've read this far then you may be experiencing a crisis and are searching for the right person to assist you or someone you care about.  If so, I encourage you to reach out to me for help.  I will provide you with confidential consultation, experienced guidance, compassionate support and a personalized plan of action.  I've helped many individuals and couples turn heartbreak, confusion, shame and sorrow into a happy, honest, intimate and healthy life.  I hope you will give me the opportunity to help you in the same way today.

-Bill