Atlanta Help for Chronic Infidelity, Porn Problems, Sex Addiction and Complex Sexual Dilemmas

I provide extremely specialized assistance to men and women in Atlanta who have experienced the many harmful effects of "chronically problematic sexual behavior", a phrase I've come to rely on to describe any ongoing pattern of sexual behavior that conflicts with a person's commitments, values or self-control. 

I am a certified sex addiction therapist (CSAT) who uses some of that model as part of the wider resources I draw upon to help my clients reckon with the often serious and lasting consequences that can result from an essential incompatibility between some aspect of their sexual behavior, their commitments to others and their core personal values.

Let this page give you some sense of my perspective, but check back soon and often because I am just starting to update my site content.    Of course nothing I can write will be as helpful as a personal consult, so please contact me now if I can help you or someone important to you. 

Sexual Desire Is Wonderful, But Sexual Deception Isn't

Sex is an essential aspect of a satisfying and fulfilling life. However, some people habitually engage in sexual behaviors that have the power to harm their relationships, reputations, principles and self-esteem. These kinds of sexual problems take many forms.  Some people use pornography excessively. Others spend large sums of money on the sex industry.  And many people find secret sexual hook-ups or have long-term affairs. The list goes on and on.  Some people recognize they have a problem, usually after something bad has happened, and sincerely promise to change their ways, only to fall back into the same unhealthy sexual behavior patterns.

When The Sexual Lies Come Crashing Down: Despair Can Lead to True Healing

Why do good people repeatedly do such things that can harm them and others they care about?  Nobody sets out to hurt their loved ones or damage their reputation, but the human mind has a sad ability to justify all kinds and types of behavior while ignoring or minimizing the obvious risks, often to everyone's great and lasting regret and even despair.  Elemental levels of deception can occur for years or decades, with potentially devastating effects when revealed through a surprise discovery.  When the world itself seems to be crashing it's time to move toward a stable source for help.

Healing From a History of Infidelity: Promises and Apologies Aren't Enough

The kind of healing that deserves to happen in these kinds of situations usually doesn't happen quickly or easily, even with the most heartfelt remorse and sincere promises.  It can take more sustained hard work than most people ever imagined themselves capable of doing to regain trust, rebuild integrity, grieve losses, develop skills, and face issues that contributed to this problem in the first place.  My advice is that the best way through this life crisis is to be rigorously honest, to fully accept the reality of the problem, to be wholly accountable and to remain dedicated to the task of true healing and personal growth.  The many rewards of this most difficult work are well worth every ounce of effort. 

Repeated Sexual Betrayal and Difficulty Stopping Sexual Behavior Can Suggest Sex Addiction

There are many reasons why people keep engaging in sexual behavior that goes against their deeply held values and commitments.  Sometimes the issue is clearly some form of sexual or pornography addiction or compulsion.  Nobody likes to admit they aren't in full control of their sexual choices.  The difference between sexual behavior that is poorly chosen and that which is poorly controlled is subtle but powerful and worthy of honest self-examination.  I help people figure out what's going on and what to do about it. 

My Brief Take On Sex Addiction

I define sex addiction as a loss of control of the ability to make consistently healthy sexual choices.  Like any other addiction it gradually consumes more time and energy away from other pleasures, responsibilities and commitments.

Sex addiction has less to do with the type, amount or frequency of a person’s sexual behavior and more to do with a person's diminished ability to control those choices.  Its outcome is measured in losses: loss of connection, self-esteem, trust, relationships, time, income, integrity, freedom, health and hope.  When behavior continues despite all of this risk, and no matter what a person promises or tries to stop or control it, THAT is the hallmark of an addiction.

Like termites silently eating away at the foundation of a home, sex addiction creates secret tunnels and caverns in a person’s life.  This is how a person who is truly loving and ethical can come to develop what amounts to secret compartments of his or her life.  This slow erosion continues until the foundation finally collapses, leading to pain and fear almost beyond measure.

I'm an Atlanta Counselor Specializing in Chronic Infidelity, Addiction to Sex or Porn and Complex Sexual Dilemmas

A way through this nightmare to a new and better way of living is absolutely possible.  I've been thrilled by the heroic journeys of many people I've witnessed and helped shepherd through rough passages. I've seen many lives turn around toward health, happiness, healing and wholeness. Breaking this cycle of pain and despair takes insight and understanding, the development of some new skills and abilities, honesty and accountability, empathy and a greater capacity for true intimacy, the healing of old and new wounds, greater emotional regulation, and much more.  It's just not possible to do all of this alone, nor is it necessary. I can help. This is what I do.  

If you think I may be the right person to assist you or someone you care about, let me know about it. I've helped many individuals and couples and it would be an honor to help you.

-Bill