Quantity vs. Quality

In my Atlanta counseling practice I have worked with many financially successful individuals. Sometimes the distance between their financial success and their personal unhappiness seems as vast as the Grand Canyon.

Many adults have spent years trying to fulfill an image of a successful adult that they formed as children. The problem is that a kid’s idea of success is not likely to be sufficient for a fully formed adult. This can result in men and women who find their lives emotionally unfulfilled after they've achieved solid financial success.

Ultimately this dilemma comes down to the difference between quantity (how much one has in life) and quality (what one’s life ultimately means). Oscar Wilde humorously wrote that "a cynic knows the price of everything and the value of nothing", and unfortunately there are a lot of savvy business people whose lives have not turned out as satisfying as they had initially hoped and worked for.

More is not always better. As Albert Einstein observed, "not everything that can be counted counts, and not everything that counts can be counted." To understand this is a mark of wisdom.


Bill Herring LCSW, CSAT is an Atlanta psychotherapist with specialized skills in the areas of infidelity and affair recovery.