About My Writing
About My Writing
I enjoy writing! It gives me an opportunity to share my perspective on different topics in a way that I hope can be helpful to people I may never have the pleasure to meet. My writing falls into three categories:
(1) My professional publications that appear in academic journals.
(2) My blog posts that cover a wide variety of topics that give a taste of how I think.
(3) Lengthier articles and essays, loosely grouped into the following categories.
- Communication and relationship advice
- Infidelity, betrayal and addiction to sex or pornography
- 12-step and other support groups
- The practice of psychotherapy
Clicking on any title will take you to each article. I hope you will find something that interests you. Of course, nothing takes the place of a personal confidential, so please reach out to me if yoiu would like to schedule a time to talk either in person or by phone or internet camera. .
ARTICLES ABOUT RELATIONSHIP ISSUES
This short article is a reminder that any problem you are having with someone who is important to you is an opportunity to improve your relationship with yourself.
Here's a simple and effective way to communicate complex and conflicting feelings you may be having toward an important person in your life.
When you are having difficulty dealing with another person, the “SET” model of communication, which stands for "Support, Empathy, Truth", can help you to communicate more effectively. Simple and powerful!
Here's a useful way to evaluate the communication patterns in any relationship in order to convey support and caring in the best way.
If you are considering couples counseling, how you answer one simple question can influence the kind of success you are likely to have.
Couples often complain about poor communication in their relationship, so I wrote about the sources, varieties, challenges and myths about communication problems in relationships.
It can be difficult to truly take responsibility for doing something that caused pain to another person. Sometimes different forms of denial sneak in to reduce responsibility. This article focuses on how to get it right.
The ability to apologize for a wrongdoing requires character, self-awareness and a willingness to do more than say you're sorry. Here's some ways to think about apologies that can help them do the most good to both the giver and receiver.
ARTICLES ABOUT SEX ADDICTION, CHRONIC INFIDELITY AND RELATED TOPICS
How long does it take to heal from broken trust? To read my opinion, take a deep breath and click the link.
The impact of a single act of infidelity can't compare to the pain of finding out your partner has done it over and over. This lengthy article examine the challenges that must be faced to heal from this kind of pain.
Chronic sexual deception happens for a lot of reasons. This means there can be a lot of issues to address for a person who has strayed this far off course.
Access to an endless river of pornography has created problems that have never before existed. This article looks at some of the issues related to online pornography use, including what it takes for a person to break any dependence on it that may have developed.
ARTICLES ABOUT SUPPORT GROUPS
I'm a big believer in 12-step groups. Here's why.
12-step groups have helped millions of people recover from many different kinds of unhealthy behavior patterns. So why won't some people go to them? Maybe this article can provide some answers..... and some motivation.
There are several different 12-step groups for sexual behavior. One way to figure out which one is best is to learn how each of these groups defines what it means to be sexually "sober".
Here is a list of online and telephone-based forums to bring support and assistance to anyone, any time, anywhere. .
If you are looking for a support group for just about anything in the Atlanta area, you've come to the right place!.
THOUGHTS ABOUT THERAPY
Other than feeling better, what does improvement mean in psychotherapy? This article describes three types of improvement that are helpful to keep in mind.
This article explains the differences between "counseling" and "psychotherapy", as I see it.
Here are ideas to help a person make the best use of a counseling or psychotherapy session. It's your time, your energy and your money, so use it well!
A diagnosis is a way to think about a set of problems in order to determine the best course of action. While they can be very helpful, diagnoses also have their own risks and limitations.