Insights from Atlanta Counselor Bill Herring, LCSW, CSAT

Atlanta therapist Bill Herring LCSW, CSAT for helpful discussion about sensitive personal issues.

Here's a collection of little essays and observations about a variety of topics related to personal growth, emotional development, relationship enhancenment and other topics I find meaningful and interesting. There's probably enough for an e-book but for now here they are.  

You can read small snippets of each blog post below: click the title of any that interest you to read the entire post.  Each entry has also been loosely grouped into categories which can help guide your viewing.

A Photo of Me Receiving the Carnes Award from Dr. Carnes

Bill Herring and Patrick Carnes

Five Questions to Assess Problematic Sexual Behavior

Five Categories of Problematic Sexual BehaviorIn 2017 I published an article titled "A Framework for Categorizing Chronically Problematic Sexual Behavior" in the journal Sexual Addiction & Compulsivity.  This short article presented a way to assess a person's sexual behavior patterns for any problematic aspects without the need to apply labels or theories and in a way that applies equally to people who hold very different sexual values, norms and practices.  It solved some dilemmas that I've long had with the limitations of the "sex addiction" theory base and realized my desire to open up services to people who do not have diminished self-control but still have a need for formalized professional assistance. It took me 15 years to crack the code and the result ultimately seems very simple and common sense.

Uncover to Recover

This may seem to be a very basic message, but if something is bothering you, it’s generally a good idea to talk about it. If you have an issue that is causing you to be unhappy in some way, it's important to tell somebody what's going on. If you have a secret that you are too ashamed to discuss with anyone, guess what? That is exactly what you need to talk about!

Give Up to Take Up

We've all had times when our hands were so full we couldn't carry any more until we put some things down.  Similarly, when your brain is full of limiting and negative ideas and beliefs about yourself and the world there may be little room to take on new and better ones to influence you in a more positive direction.

Therapeutic Metaphor: Sunflower Seeds

After a lengthy period without adding any new entries to this site (has it really been almost a year!?) I am ready to return to writing blog posts. I took some time out to write a professional article for publication, but that's done now. 

Today I'm going to add to my occasional series of posts regarding various "therapeutic metaphors" that I use from time to time in my Atlanta counseling and psychotherapy practice.  I find metaphors to be excellent at highlighting concepts that people can find useful in their lives, often in subtle and unexpected ways. 

Got Any Boats That Need Burning?

I did a quick search for the phrase “burn the boats” and discovered it's used a lot as a metaphor in business.  I want to share a way I've come to occasionally apply this perspective as a psychotherapist. 

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Red and Green Jellybeans

People tend to see patterns where they don’t really exist and to come to faulty conclusions about what a series of events means.  When things repeatedly don't go a person's way it's easy to feel like a failure or someone who's "jinxed".  Such a confidence killer can erode further effort or optimism. 

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Quantity vs. Quality

In my Atlanta counseling practice I have worked with many financially successful individuals. Sometimes the distance between their financial success and their personal unhappiness seems as vast as the Grand Canyon.

Of Whats and Whys

This is another entry in my ever-growing list of "therapeutic distinctions", pairs of closely related concepts that contain subtle differences that may initially seem obscure but which can often reveal profound implications. One such distinction is between "what" and "why".

Walking the Dog

It's not always easy to manage your emotions so they don't rule you.  In my Atlanta counseling practice I sometimes use the example of walking a dog to illustrate an essential idea about emotional self-control.


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